"Different people certainly have different ideas about the relationship between Buffy and Spike, but to me this thing about him being her dark place feels very consistent. That seems to be a very unchanging aspect of their relationship. She could share things with him that she couldn’t share with anybody else in part because she knew she wouldn’t be judged. And it’s not just that he’s “the bad boy.” There’s a real level of understanding between the two of them."
"If someone is there for you, is asking nothing of you and has loved you faithfully and unconditionally for all those years, and if that person is the one that you turn to for comfort and support when you are at your most vulnerable, and if they give you that comfort and support unconditionally asking nothing in return, then whether you acknowledge it or not, that is love, so yes, Buffy loved Spike”."
"And this was the trick: how to get her in the sack with Spike half an act after Angel had left. But, you know, the experience… you know, I’ve said this probably a hundred times, probably all of them on the audio commentaries to these damn episodes, the trick is always to make the audience go through exactly what she’s going through. It’s confusing to us, emotionally, that we should bounce from one to the other, and it’s confusing to her. But… Spike is the person in her life right now. The great Marsters with a chemistry with Buffy that is just completely different from Angel’s, and different than David’s, and yet works very, very well. He’s more on Buffy’s level. He’s more… Their vulnerabilities come out, and I don’t just mean as characters, but as actors around each other. And that really works, it works on a very different level. Their relationship has clearly been through a lot - much more, in fact, than her relationship with Angel, in a way. And you feel that history with these two, and they bring it to the set every time they come to work and that’s why we still came to work, because they did."